tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post2998675316137993..comments2024-03-19T15:19:25.978-07:00Comments on Five and Counting....: Tears and Triumphsmotherof5http://www.blogger.com/profile/10195031588051037622noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-28927017214015565712011-03-22T00:05:11.781-07:002011-03-22T00:05:11.781-07:00I think it is a matter of picking your battles and...I think it is a matter of picking your battles and concentrating on what is important. If everything is treated the same, then they lose the ability to determine the difference between stupid and dangerous. My daughter knew that if I put my foot down, I really meant it. (She also knew that I would pick her up anywhere, anytime, questions unasked, rather than have her get in the car with a drunk friend, because the first time she called me, I came. Now she is everybody's designated driver.)<br /><br />I also have bushy eyebrows. (And use the same Brooke Shields argument.) She paints hers in REALLY big. It is the only thing I am allowed to tease her about because even she realizes that they are HUGE!Adelaide Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04416139155541674614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-51883085371886786392011-03-21T23:53:57.246-07:002011-03-21T23:53:57.246-07:00Thanks Adelaide,it is so nice to hear from someone...Thanks Adelaide,it is so nice to hear from someone who has been there!<br />Drink driving is a huge issue in the country and I must admit the thought of them getting in a car with an intoxicated driver worries me more than a bit of muck on their faces.<br /><br />I have naturally bushy eyebrows,I kid myself I look like Brooke Shields,please don't burst my bubble!<br /><br />X Nmotherof5https://www.blogger.com/profile/10195031588051037622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-56537634752339992202011-03-21T23:37:03.024-07:002011-03-21T23:37:03.024-07:00Hi! So, I wear no makeup and my daughter is 20 no...Hi! So, I wear no makeup and my daughter is 20 now and is a makeup expert. My philosophy when she was younger was to pretty much let her do as she pleased with hair and makeup. My reasoning behind this was that there were so many other issues that meant more to me (such as staying out late, beer, and boys) that I didn't want her to get confused about what was really important. Somedays I would look at her and think "Really?" but just let it go. So when I did say something about what I felt were the "real" issues, she paid more attention. (Also teenage girls perceive almost any comment from mom as a criticism, even if none was meant. Not saying anything has been the hardest thing for me to learn as a parent.) I'm happy to say my daughter has grown up awesome. Although for some reason she likes to make her eyebrows really big. Freaks me out every time.Adelaide Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04416139155541674614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-42999544335063828162011-03-11T02:28:26.384-08:002011-03-11T02:28:26.384-08:00I am with you Millie,I will quite happily put my f...I am with you Millie,I will quite happily put my foot down and that is the end of the matter! But this didn't really fall into that category ... <br />I can remember some not so pleasant moments with my mother,the fact that I clearly remember them suggests they were quite devastating at the time.<br />Thank you as always for your support and definitely put off that make up!(but Miss E said exactly the same thing)!<br /><br />They will Mel,but do your best and do it with love,thats all we can do!<br />Roots and Wings!<br /><br />Good point Johanna,avert the situation! Thank you!motherof5https://www.blogger.com/profile/10195031588051037622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-80786760050987420682011-03-10T21:33:11.271-08:002011-03-10T21:33:11.271-08:00My mom brought me to the same kind of cosmetic lad...My mom brought me to the same kind of cosmetic lady when I came home from school in tears because someone had asked if I had been attacked by crayons that day, after I had spent my babysitting money on my own makeup. I think an ounce of prevention is very worthwhile in this case.JohannaOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14526238840298410756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-62163015336271790902011-03-10T08:10:05.493-08:002011-03-10T08:10:05.493-08:00Terrifically handled! Your children really are so...Terrifically handled! Your children really are so beautiful and do not need make up! But, I can understand the need to do what everyone else does. I so fear those days that will come...Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06313445760120430911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-6651568600140176982011-03-10T06:03:30.814-08:002011-03-10T06:03:30.814-08:00As always Nicole, you seem to handle these situati...As always Nicole, you seem to handle these situations so well. Our family is not one to give into peer pressure, but I do know that the pre-teen stage is an especially delicate one....I wonder if I will handle it so well....we make decisions all the time that our kids don't necessarily agree with, My mother made some bad decisions that I hold against her....I always worry that I'll do the same.<br />Sorry...didn't mean to get so serious! <br />You're a marvel! My 8yr old daughter "hates" make-up...long may it last!Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08345822230344288078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-17345571134116614232011-03-10T05:57:53.235-08:002011-03-10T05:57:53.235-08:00Oh,but Claire I am not pregnant with a three year ...Oh,but Claire I am not pregnant with a three year old and a toddler and working!<br />Three year olds forgive very easily, twelve year olds-not so quick,if we do stuff up!motherof5https://www.blogger.com/profile/10195031588051037622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-83404147560631723662011-03-10T03:52:55.586-08:002011-03-10T03:52:55.586-08:00Nicole, you're making me nervous with your ...Nicole, you're making me nervous with your 'toddler tantrums were a doddle compared with this'! I am living with a 'threenager' and telling myself this must surely be the hardest part of parenting. please don't burst my bubble!Claireabellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16178335728672307283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-80618484146592089002011-03-10T01:30:37.273-08:002011-03-10T01:30:37.273-08:00Thank you so much everyone,I do appreciate the sup...Thank you so much everyone,I do appreciate the support!<br /> Heather do you let your 13 year old wear make up?,is she interested in that sort of thing? It seems so young to me,but I guess I was working and had left home at 15.<br /><br />Thank you Camille,toddler tantrums were a doddle compared with this! I didn't fight with my mother,its a respectful relationship,but we are not close. I really envy you that!<br /><br />Sarvi,you say the nicest things,if you lived next door I could give up wine!<br />I did wonder in this circumstance if a professional may carry more weight? I had been checking out chemists for a little while now looking for the right girl,not too old or too flashy,and we found the perfect one!<br /><br />Thank you Jan,babies were easy compared to this! Pre-empting situations seems to be the best tactic and being very careful with those fragile feelings.<br /><br />I was so lucky to find her Susanne and she handled the situation perfectly!<br />It is exciting my girls are growing up!<br /><br />Thankyou Justine!<br /><br />Oh Sandi,I hadnt thought of that -yuck! I have never been a ''share my make up'' girl.<br />Thankyou!(hope you are feeling better)motherof5https://www.blogger.com/profile/10195031588051037622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-53531371228961112462011-03-09T18:55:44.839-08:002011-03-09T18:55:44.839-08:00I think you did this perfectly! So much better to...I think you did this perfectly! So much better to take them in yourself than for them to borrow make-up from a friend and look horrible. (Or get an eye infection!) I'm so glad the gal at the make-up counter pushed for the natural look. That's just great.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-10701722886768049562011-03-09T17:56:09.999-08:002011-03-09T17:56:09.999-08:00Can't say it enough Nicole - you are a wonder!...Can't say it enough Nicole - you are a wonder!justmejayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06510658415311528556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-28251321051918181592011-03-09T11:48:32.411-08:002011-03-09T11:48:32.411-08:00Handled beautifully, Nicole! And kudos to the shop...Handled beautifully, Nicole! And kudos to the shop assistant for being sensitive (and entirely appropriate!). I hope that when I get to the same stage with M that I'm as fortunate.Susannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12830641583946620028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-80438409824469921542011-03-09T10:02:03.229-08:002011-03-09T10:02:03.229-08:00Sounds like you are guiding them through their tra...Sounds like you are guiding them through their transition to teendom just perfectly. Tough stuff to navigate. Good Mommy!janimalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11916480082033700432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-22422265074338529162011-03-09T09:33:52.023-08:002011-03-09T09:33:52.023-08:00Almost every girl I know wears (or doesn't wea...Almost every girl I know wears (or doesn't wear) makeup pretty much as her mother did. I probably wear more than mine for parties and such, and I certainly *buy* quite a lot of it, but day-to-day, rarely anything. Don't worry, Nicole -- they will go through phases of trying out different looks, but in the long run, they will remember how lovely their mother looked with just a touch and that will be their image of beauty. Taking them in to get advice from a 'professional' is fantastic -- her words will have more weight and authority than even their classmates.Sarvihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05056602290514133722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-26592042571566044532011-03-09T07:32:51.949-08:002011-03-09T07:32:51.949-08:00As mine is only 2 I don't have any motherly ad...As mine is only 2 I don't have any motherly advice, but I can say that my own mother and I were at the point of killing each other when I was a preteen. Now we are the best of friends so I guess this too shall pass! :)Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12940216663843489797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7451620064759054335.post-54645498241794047762011-03-09T06:46:14.148-08:002011-03-09T06:46:14.148-08:00I have a 13 yr old so I know what you're going...I have a 13 yr old so I know what you're going through! You do have to give in a little and I think taking them to the shop was a brilliant idea! I'm sure they felt quite grown up...Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05438319095780906710noreply@blogger.com